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Misunderstandings

Has it ever happened to you ?  Has anyone ever been misunderstood – misunderstood by the ones closest to you ?  I have. A lot.  It’s funny, really – how life works; how relationships work.  I have come to accept the fact that being misunderstood by those closest to me is just going to have to be one of the crosses I must bear in life.  It hurts.  But trying to explain often makes matters worse, so sometimes it’s just better to allow the other person to continue in their belief that my intentions were not good.

So, what is all of this babbling about ?

Why is this post not making much sense ?

Am I just someone who wants to complain ?

No.  I don’t want to complain, and I’ll tell you what this is all about.

I smiled.

It wasn’t a big smile – just a quick, little, flash of a smile.  I smiled because I had just told my husband that the smell he was commenting about was not his dinner burning, just a spill on the hot stove.  After I informed him of that, I flashed a quick smile to show him all was well.  Ooops.

Suddenly all was not well.  “I saw that. I saw that smug little smile.” he said to me.  I was surprised.  He had totally misunderstood my intentions.

“No.” I said.  “I wasn’t – I didn’t…”

“I know what I saw.  Don’t be like that.”

Well, I could have done one of two things.  I could have stood there and defended myself, and continue to insist upon my good intentions, which would only bring about an argument.  OR  I could just allow him to continue believing that I was being smug – after all, he knew what he saw.  Well, I chose the latter.

I chose to continue to be misunderstood, rather than to get into an argument with my husband – especially since all of this was taking place in front of my son.

I later practiced that little smile in front of the mirror. Oh boy.  It did appear smug.  Wow.  I will never use that expression again.  I really didn’t intend for it to come off like that.

So, I ended up apologizing to my husband – as always.

I guess being misunderstood is part of life.  After all, Christ was misunderstood more than anyone else ever was.  He didn’t defend Himself.  I should try to be more Christ-like, even if it hurts sometimes.

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acceptance · challenge · kindness

How I did on my challenge:

Well the 24 hours have certainly passed, and I believe that I am a better person because of it.  It’s fun to see the look of surprise on the faces of those around you when an unexpected kind deed is done.  I said I would let you know how I did, so here it is.  I made this list out before starting the challenge, and am happy to say that I was able to complete them all.  The last one was the most difficult for me.

Began the challenge at 3:30pm Sunday, May 7

Give hubby a back rub even when I don’t feel like it

Give up my dessert (let someone else have the last fudgebar)

Show an interest in my son’s interests (his aquarium, his turtle…)

Smile at someone passing by – just to brighten their day

Listen. Really listen to someone who needs to talk.

Refill my son’s water bottle for him

Be nice even when others are not being nice to me

Simply say, “I love you.” to my son just because I do.

Offer to spend some time doing something with my son that he likes, it doesn’t have to be what I like.

Remain silent if I disagree with something my husband says.

My next goal is to give a gift-card to an unsuspecting stranger.   Won’t that be fun!

I did it!  I couldn’t believe it, but I reached the goal mentioned above!  It was so much fun!  The best part is that I told no one!  Here’s what happened, I had with me two $5.00 gift cards to wal-mart.  As I was shopping in our local grocery store, I noticed two of the store workers, box boys probably.  I walked up to them and asked them if they ever shopped at walmart, because I was looking for someone to give these card to.  They looked at me as if in shock.  “Wait – what?”   I handed them each a $5.00 gift certificate and walked away.  They stood there for a moment or two, still wondering what just happened.  Then called out to me, “Thank you!”  It was the best time I had ever had while grocery shopping!

challenge · gratitude · kindness

KINDNESS CHALLENGE!

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Today I am issuing a challenge – a 24hr kindness challenge!  That’s right.  I challenge you to try to see how many individual acts of kindness you can perform within the time of 24 hours. Go out of your way to help someone else, lend a listening ear to someone who needs to talk, offer to help someone else, or simply smile at someone. . .  You know, be kind just for the sake of being kind.  But don’t just leave it at that. Keep track of your kind deeds.  Make a list of kind deeds that you can do for others and check them off, but not until AFTER you have performed them.  I will do the same.  My next post will be of how I did on the kindness challenge.  Yes, I’m challenging myself as well!   Well, I’m starting right now – wish me luck!  By the way, the 24 hour period is just to get you started, there’s no reason we should ever stop being kind!  Good luck!

Oh, It would be great if you let me know how you did on the challenge.  Just leave a comment in the comment box!  🙂